How To Tell Your Kids About Divorce

The younger your child or children are the easier it is if you are getting a divorce. Then as they get to a certain age and start asking questions it will be much easier to explain to them. But if you have a child that is older in age this may be more difficult for you and more so for them to handle. A child may blame them selves for this. they may blame you. Or they may just plain out blame every one and anything for it. You and your ex need to come to some kind of civil agreement. This really is not for you and them but it is for the children so it makes it easier for them to handle. A child will not be ok with things if they see that you guys are fighting real bad, saying nasty things to one another, or just plain out being mean. You need to treat the child as though they are an adult and sit down with the both parents and child or children that are involved and try to explain things to them in the best way that they will understand things. Another thing to remember is that you have to be fully honest with them and let them know that any question they may have they are ok to ask it.

Tips For Helping Kids Cope With Divorce

Some random suggestions on to do's and not to do's for how to tell your kids about divorce.

• Do not down talk the other parent. Try to keep it as positive as you can for them. Do not blame one another for what is going on, the best thing to say is that it just is not working out and you guys have tried your all to make it but it is just not going to happen.
• Let the child know as much as you can that it is not their fault and they did nothing wrong for this to happen.
• Tell them that you and their other parent love them. Let them know this frequently.
• Make them aware that one of you will be moving away from the home but does not mean that they will not be able to see you. let them know that you are able to stay with the both of them if that is what you want to do.
• Ask them their feelings on the situation and let them express how they feel about things.
• They may need to go and seek counseling for it. If they do let them know that there is nothing wrong with that. And that you may even need to go as well.
• If you feel as though you and your ex are going to have an argument try to take it in to another room or wait till the child is not around. The last thing you want to do is let your child see the fighting after being told something of that nature.

Telling Your Kids About Divorce

Ultimately, no matter what is going on you really have to try hard to keep things as calm as possible for your children during this time. They may not take very well to what is going on and this will be when they do need you the most, so do not be selfish and inconsiderate of the way your child feels. Work with your children through the divorce process the best that you possibly can, as this was certainly not their decision.